How to Bring Up Health Concerns When Visiting Your Aging Parents
by Ewa Frydel, Owner
During the winter and summer, we tend to visit our parents more often. It’s a great time for bonding, but these moments can also be the best time to take note of any health concerns you may have with your senior parent. A question you may be asking yourself is, how is their health?
If you’re the type to be reserved when bringing up sensitive topics you’re concerned with, like your parent’s health, this is for you. We understand the topic of senior care can be uncomfortable, so here are some tips on how to approach your concerns and care for your elderly loved one.
How to Bring Up Health Concerns When Visiting Your Aging Parents
We’ll look into ways you can show your concern without the risk of offending or becoming overbearing.
Don’t be too direct or blunt. For instance, you won't want to say, "You shouldn't be eating that", or, "I've noticed your medications aren't filled". Rather, you can simply ask, "How are you feeling around food right now?" or, "How have you been feeling with your medications and doctor visits?" By asking them questions versus making statements, you allow your senior loved one to be in control and feel more respected.
Check if it’s a bad day or happening often. Sometimes we just catch our aging parent on a bad day. We all have them and being a senior is no exception. However, if you noticed something that causes you some concern, like a terrible cough, make a mental note or journal about it privately. Then make time to visit again and again. If you catch that this bad day turned into a pattern, then bring it up, but again, in a subtle way and not so directly.
Go for a drive. Ask your senior parent to go for a drive but have them be the one driving. Observe how their driving makes you feel. Do you feel anxious or safe? To bring this concern up, you guessed it, be subtle. Ask about their optometry appointments and how they feel about driving. If your elderly parent answers back with some reserve, or if you sense denial, then it's time to be less subtle. This doesn't mean immediately become more direct, but you can instead offer ways to be supportive.
Can you become a family caregiver and monitor food intake and medications?
Are you able to transport your senior parents or hire transportation for them?
If your mom or dad is confident that they're okay, but you're still unsure, trust your instincts and continue to visit and monitor your concerns. This can be a cycle, but don't give up altogether. At Woodslake Home Care, we understand what it's like to have concerns for your aging loved one. You can contact us with any questions on how to approach such difficult conversations.
You are not alone. If the idea of becoming a family caregiver is overwhelming as well, we've got your back.
Contact us today and we can offer more ways to help you and your senior in need.
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Legal Disclaimer
This blog provides general information and discussions about discussing health concerns with your parents and should not be construed as medical advice.
